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Column: You think guys have it easy?

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Carl Zielinski

Carl Zielinski
Gargoyle staff reporter
Posted Thursday, April 5, 2007
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RECENTLY I HAD the misfortune to read my mail and discover that I had received my prom invitation.

While putting the invitation in the shape of a star and a moon was an interesting touch, it couldn't keep me from turning green at the implications of that piece of postage.

It's not that I'm not looking forward to prom, because I am. Seriously. The part I'm not looking forward to is having to find a date.

Yes, I realize that Andrea Park already wrote a column similar to this. But what she doesn't seem to get is that girls have it much easier than us quiet, not extremely outgoing guys.

While girls can take their sweet time and wait for a date, we actually have to go out and get one.

When I think about it, finding a date really shouldn't have been much of a problem. I could have built up a list of possible people to ask, so that at worst I would be going with a friend I could have a good time with.

Instead, I put it off until now, when I've had to rush and try to think of whom I'm going to ask, and then actually go through with asking them.

That in and of itself really isn't a big deal, since I don't fear rejection that much. The only problem is that I don't want to feel like a complete idiot if the person I ask says no.

If anybody has an idea as to how to lessen the “idiot factor,” as I like to call it, please tell me. I may need it.

[Note: An earlier version of this column appeared in the Gargoyle staff blog.]


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Comments

"While girls can take their sweet time and wait for a date, we actually have to go out and get one." You say that like waiting isn't painful and stressful.

"That in and of itself really isn't a big deal, since I don't fear rejection that much. The only problem is that I don't want to feel like a complete idiot if the person I ask says no." I hate to break it to you, but to the extent of my personal experience, this constitutes a fear of rejection.

"'While girls can take their sweet time and wait for a date, we actually have to go out and get one.' You say that like waiting isn't painful and stressful." You say that like girls' only option is waiting in fear. Why not ask a guy?

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